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Mothers Groups: Celebrating My Gang of Mums

All that talk of bragging in my last post got me thinking about Mothers Groups. I know many women do not enjoy a positive experience when it comes to Mothers Groups. Throw a group of women together who are complete strangers, with little in common except for the fact that they have given birth in the last few weeks and it is little wonder really. Let’s face it, women can be bitchy… and judgmental… and cliquey; once you throw in a little new mother hyper-sensitivity and a good dose of post-baby hormones it is hardly surprising that the experience can occasionally be soul destroying!

I was very fortunate when it came to my Mothers Group (hi ladies, *waves,* I know that at least one or two of you are reading this). I was lucky to fall into a group of women of similar ages, many of whom were (coincidently) teachers and nurses, and we had a good mix of baby boys and girls, breastfed and bottle fed, routine junkies and ‘go with the flow’ types. I found everyone to be open, helpful and supportive and I never felt like I was being criticised, judged or ostracised for my choices as a mother. Of course, within the larger group there were sub-groups of Mums who were closer and met more regularly but that was okay too. And whenever your baby achieved a milestone, it was celebrated with wonderment – I mean, we were all new at this and to think that one day our baby might be doing that too, amazing! So bragging, it never really felt like bragging, it felt like the joy of being a new Mum.

I miss those days – we would meet once a week by the beach for coffee and our babies would kick around on blanket on the ground dribbling all over each other and pulling the hair of the lucky ones who actually had hair. I miss those Mums. I know that I am not the only one who has moved away, many returned to work and even more are now pregnant or have had their second baby, so the group is not really the same anymore. I am thankful for the support of those women who helped me make it through the early days and I send them love and best wishes today, wherever they may be. I miss you all.

Can you pick Immy in the line up?

Did you participate in a mothers group? What was your experience like?

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  1. meginphilly says:

    i too had a really great experience with mothers groups- first the new moms support group, and now a general moms group. the friendship/support generated from these groups has been awesome. wondering how it will change/grow?? when I enter school-age years.

  2. Lol I'll de-lurk myself.
    I love my mother's group! We still meet every Monday two and a half years after we started.

  3. Oh I miss you Christie!!! What would I have done without you in those first few months! I know you're a friend for life having seen me so frazzled,unwashed, sleep-deprived, and (consequently) mental,and still willing to hang out with me!xxx

  4. I never was part of a mothers group – I went to a few but always felt like I wasn't part of the group. Everyone else had a connection – I was just someone's friend.
    I started going to a playgroup when my children were 3,2,& 1 – guess I found it hard to get out having 3 so close.
    I often think it would have been nice to just have the 1 and hang out with a group of mums – must say I was a little envious of my friends making such connections.
    Oh well, life is good now!

  5. katepickle says:

    Things didn't work out so well with my initial mother's group.. but later I met a fabulous group of mothers with kids of different ages that have all become wonderful friends… the support and wisdom and love between us inspires me daily

  6. I'll have to delurk mself because you've got that logo up. Hehehe.

    And my mums's group…I don't really have one at the moment. Sigh. But hey, I've got you!

  7. Narelle Nettelbeck says:

    Immy – last baby on the right, wearing the pink jacket?!

    Glad you enjoyed your mother's group experience, I attended mine for about 6 weeks, I didn't enjoy it a great deal but met a few really good women there who I still have contact with. I found a great playgroup to attend until I re-started my family day care :) Good to have supportive, non-judgemental people around.

  8. artsy_momma says:

    What an absolutely adorable picture- priceless! I love that your Mom's group has both routine and go with the flow moms without it seeming like it has to be one way or the other….sounds like a great group!

  9. I hope we can be a little tiny bit of a replacement over here : ) Immy is on the end in the pink. Sweet photo

  10. Rizoleey.wordpress.com says:

    I guess all we can do it put ourselves out there. I was lucky to go to a mums exercise group where we met on a Monday and Wednesday, some of us got together on other days and when we finished up with the class once our little once turned one we all kept contact, I met one of my best friends there, She now has 3 kids and me just the two. We have been meeting for playgroup/playdates since our bubs were only weeks old. Now they are going to kindy.

  11. Deborah (Teach Preschool) says:

    Hi There! I think I would have enjoyed being in a mother group with you. I never joined one – I always work too much:) But I have made good friends over the years that give me support so I am lucky in that regard:)

  12. de-lurking… love it!! I loved my mothers group… haven't been to one in many years, but it helped for the three years I went. I made a lot of great forever friends through it :)

  13. I had a wonderful mothers group. Almost three years later we still catch up for dinner, parties, playdates etc. We now have a tradition of meeting each year in Feb for a combined birthday party in the park – we joke that we will keep going until they are 21 :)

  14. SquiggleMum says:

    I'm not a lurker! Immy is so easy to pick from that lineup. Little cutie.

    I love the support I get from my MOPS group (Mothers Of Pre Schoolers). I started going when I was pregnant the first time around, and have been to almost every meeting since! Now I'm the coordinator of our group, and I love supporting other mums with kids under school age. I don't think we're meant to do this mothering thing alone. We need each other. xx

  15. Christie - Childhood 101 says:

    Thank you all for your comments, it is interesting how so many of us have similar experiences all around the world. Yep, Immy is on the end, in pink, the big buddha baby of the group! LOL!

  16. Tina told us about this blog post this morning you wrote about us all. We miss you too Christie! We were only saying at playgroup today, we should head back to Nicks and do a photo with all the second round of kids once the last of them are born over the coming months. Its such a classic photo!

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