Isn’t it funny how easily we forget so many of the more difficult bits of parenting a baby? At the moment AJ is exhibiting some pretty classic velcro baby symptoms. She just wants her Mum…All. Of. The. Time. Although she is now all about Daddy, I am sure Immy went through similar stages as a bub. But apart from a two day stint when she was brand new, I really don’t remember those moments at all.
The incessant pulling at my legs when I am busy in the kitchen. Constantly following me wherever I go or checking to see that I am still nearby. The look of relief on her face and arms held up to me when I come into sight after a nanna nap, even though she has been perfectly happy playing with her Dad and her sister while I rested. The refusal to settle to sleep for anyone but me, at anytime of the day or night. Wanting to be held and carried and cuddled… a lot.
At ten months she has so much going on – babbling away as she learns to communicate, learning to clap, teaching herself to stand up, new teeth coming through, new foods, new routines. At an age where she I can’t really ask her to “go and play” by herself while I complete a task. Everything takes so much longer with a little one permanently attached to my leg or perched on my hip. It can be hard, and that is on a good day.
I wouldn’t change a thing. We wanted this baby with all of our hearts and we love her more than the world. Just as she is. But it can be exhausting, especially on days when I am already tired or stressed. I am committed to not wishing this time away but some days it is harder to stay positive. I have been trying to think of ways to structure our routines or activities to make our days easier. I have a few ideas but I would love the advice of Mums who have made it through this phase…
Have you been loved by a velcro baby? What are your tips for surviving (and even thriving during) these days ?