Managing BIG Emotions: Take 5 Breathing Exercise

Today I am excited to team up with the lovely Leonie MacDonald of Relax Kids Canberra to bring you part four of the Managing Big Emotions printable poster series (you can find poster one here, poster two here and poster three here). Leonie is sharing a simple breathing technique (and tips for introducing the breathing exercise) that can help children (and adults) learn to manage their big emotions and calm down.

Take 5 Breathing exercise for kids. Part 4 of the Managing Big Emotions series for kids at

When we are stressed or upset nature’s ‘fight or flight’ response takes over, increasing our heart rate, making our breathing fast and shallow, and sending blood from our brain out to our limbs ready to escape or challenge the perceived threat or danger. While stress hormones are flooding our bodies and we are gripped by this programmed response it is very hard to slow down, become calm, express our feelings or think rationally about what is happening to us and how we are responding. Our thought processes and self-control are actually hindered by our biological stress response.

When stressed, children may experience an additional layer of fear or distress as they feel out of control and overwhelmed, not understanding what is happening to them or why. As adults, we are more aware of our feelings and of the physiological changes that come with these, but even we may have a hard time managing our own behaviour.

Take 5 Breathing is a wonderful way to switch off the stress response. It brings the body back into balance, slowing and deepening the breath and slowing down the heart rate, while harnessing the need to move with an action that requires focus and provides sensory feedback to our brains. Best of all, Take 5 Breathing is simple, enjoyable, free, and you can use it anywhere, anytime.

What is Take 5 Breathing?
During take 5 breathing, children concentrate on taking five slow breaths in through their nose and out through their mouths. Children may need to practice this first as they may be mouth breathing. If you notice that your child finds breathing through their nose a challenge, invite them to imagine they are smelling a beautiful flower or their favourite food as they breathe in, and then to breathe out with a big sigh. (Breathing in and smelling a beautiful smell and breathing out with a sigh because it smelt so good.) At the same time as breathing, children will focus on the action of tracing up and down the fingers of one hand and the gentle sensations this creates. Here is how it works:

Five Steps to Feeling Calm (use this as a guide to teaching your children)

  1. Spread your hand and stretch your fingers out like a star. You can choose your left hand or your right hand. Pretend the pointer finger of your other hand is a pencil and imagine you are going to trace around the outline of your hand and fingers.
  2. Start at the bottom of your thumb and slide your finger up your thumb, pause at the top, and then slide your finger down the other side. Now slide your pointer up your second finger, pause, and slide down the other side. Continue tracing your fingers up, pause, and down. Slide your finger slowly, watch your finger move and notice how it feels. Keep going until you have finished tracing your fifth finger (pinky).
  3. Now you are ready to add some breathing. Breathe in through your nose and breathe out through your mouth. Remember to keep it slow and steady.
  4. Place your pointer finger at the bottom of your thumb, and breathe in as you slide up. Breathe out as you slide down. Breathe in as you slide up your second finger, and breathe out as you slide down. Keep going until you have finished tracing your fingers and you have taken five slow breaths.
  5. How does your body feel now? Do you feel calm or would you like to take another five?

Most children find the sensory aspect of this breathing method very soothing and settling. If your child dislikes the sensation of sliding their finger up and down their hand try one of these adaptations;

  • Trace an outline of their hand on a piece of card and they can trace their finger along the outline. You can create a textured outline or cut out the shape if this works better.
  • An alternative that involves no touching is to stretch their fingers out like candles on a cake and slowly blow each candle out and tuck the finger into the palm.

Practising Take 5
The best time to practise Take 5 Breathing, or any calm down method, is when everyone is happy and no one feels stressed. Children find it hard to learn or use these techniques when they are already overwhelmed by big feelings (so do adults!) and it is important that we don’t force, push or demand that children use a calm down method. The last thing our children need is pressure to succeed at relaxing! Letting a poster or picture act as a reminder rather than verbally telling our children what to do when they are feeling overcome with emotion and stress can be more effective. You can see me demonstrating the technique here:

Helping Your Children Process Their Emotions Once They Are Calm
While Take 5 Breathing addresses the stress response, our children need to know that their big feelings are important and we do want to hear what is going on for them. There is a difference clamping up and shutting our feelings away and calming down so that we can talk about our feelings and express them in a safe way. If children feel angry, hurt or worried, their feelings will probably still be there once they have calmed down. That makes it the perfect time to connect, reassure and listen to your children.

To download and print your poster: Click on the poster image below. This will open a larger PDF version that you can download to your own computer. Open the PDF and print. When printing, select “Fit to printable area” (or similar) to ensure the page fits with your printer type and local paper size (these have been created at A4 size). I printed ours onto matte photo paper. Personal, non commercial use only.

Take 5 Breathing Exercise for Kids

LMacDonaldAbout Leonie: Leonie MacDonald is a qualified primary teacher, a Relax Kids coach and mother of two boys aged 9 and 6. She lives with her family in Canberra. Leonie loves cooking, growing her own food with occasional success, knitting, craft, making gifts, reading and meditation.

While mothering a sensitive, easily over stimulated and overwhelmed toddler, Leonie realised that the same relaxation and meditation techniques she had learnt in pregnancy could help children to cope with stress and unwind. So she began to create her own simple bedtime meditations and massage to help her children fall asleep. During this time Leonie discovered Relax Kids products and began to use these to bring calm into her home. Massage and meditation helped Leonie to gently wean both her children and continues to help them to relax and unwind.

Now Leonie runs her own Relax Kids classes in Canberra, providing children with the opportunity to learn and benefit from yoga-based stretches, peer and self-massage, breathing techniques, positive self-talk, mindfulness and meditation in a positive, creative and fun environment. Leonie also sells relaxation and meditation products for children, books for families and pregnancy and birth products including her book “Birth Journeys – positive birth stories to encourage and inspire”. These products are available here. Connect with Leonie via the Relax Kids Canberra Facebook page.

If you haven’t yet, print each of the first three posters in the series by clicking on each image below

5-Steps-to-Managing-Big-Emotions-Printable-Poster 9-Calm-Down-Ideas-for-Kids-Printable-Poster-from-Childhood-101


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  4. I hadn’t thought to practice calming techniques BEFORE anyone becomes upset, but it makes so much sense! We have students role play and practice what to do in difficult situations such as bullying, it only makes sense to have them practice personal emotional skills, as well. Thank you for the article!

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  6. Stephanie says:

    I work as a middle school counselor. Can these posters be used school wide?

  7. Great post! I will be using this with my kids during homeschool (and other times). Thanks for the resource! I shared a link to this post recently on my blog:

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