“You are my best friend, Mummy.”
I wrote that in my one sentence journal back in February, recording the words Immy had said to me as I put her to bed. These simple words of an almost three year old warmed my heart.
Of course, Immy has other friends. Small people who she misses dearly when they are not at playgroup or if she is unwell and we miss a playdate or gym class. But as a three year old, these friendships are light and ever changing, as the young children involved learn to play more together than alongside each other, discovering the hard lessons of negotiation and compromise, of acceptance, exclusion and sometimes rejection. On the other hand, mama, well she is always there.
Last night I started filling out the forms for Immy to start kindy at the beginning of next year. And I got to thinking that in just a few short months there will be all of these new (to us) people who will influence her life – teachers, peers, older buddies. No longer will I be the font of all wisdom, instead there will be a teacher who knows everything (at least in the mind of her small charges). There will be friendships with other children that I no longer have the privilege of freely observing. Her world will become more and more ‘school centred’ and less and less ‘family centred.’
There will be new best friends.
And I must admit to feeling more than a little sentimental about it all. Today I want to hold my small girl just a little bit closer as I realise the days as we know them are fewer than I dare to acknowledge.
A big change is around the corner and I must prepare my heart for it.
What were your feelings about your child taking their first big step away from home?
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