Information about the different potty training methods regular mamas have found successful in our helpful series of potty training tips.
Potty training is different for every child, and every parent, which is why we are exploring potty training from the perspective of experienced mamas who have been there – and all of them, more than once! Today we are talking about a variety of different potty training methods that you might like to try, asking our panel;
What approach did you take to toilet training?
- Softly, softly, I never rushed my kids. We tried but if they had more than two accidents on the first day then I left it for a few weeks before trying again. SP
- Waiting until our child initiated and then plenty of pants free time at home and taking a potty everywhere. We didn’t make a fuss of accidents and while we celebrated their success we didn’t use reward charts. SH
- Staying positive, making potty trips part of the daily routine, and using appropriate rewards (such as child chosen underwear). CO
- Lots of positive reinforcement and rewards for using the potty (with results) for the first few days. I bought underpants with characters that they liked, hoping that they wouldn’t want to mess in them (don’t know if that worked but they certainly did enjoy putting on undies they like). TW
- Child led. I had tried the approach where you set a week aside and put them in knickers but it just didn’t work for our daughter. Instead we went back to pull ups and let them tell us when they were ready. AH
- Our approach to potty training was very relaxed. I didn’t want it to be a big, stressful experience so that she wouldn’t have issues going to the toilet. I also decided that it would make the whole experience more enjoyable and help my daughter to pay attention if I rewarded her so we came up with the scheme of one dried apricot for a wee in the potty and 2 for a poo. She loved it! MJ
- I have always been of the opinion that if you wait until the child is really really ready then it will happen quickly and easily. It was a long drawn out process with the girls, more than a year of what seemed like two steps forward, three steps back. At times I was very frustrated, upset and worried, but in the end I had to trust they would get it eventually, when they were ready and they did. Night training was a perfect example… I thought they would never ever night train and I was very down about it, then one day Izzy asked if she could not wear a nappy in bed, I was reluctant but she was keen so I let her, she’s never ever wet the bed since. Zoe followed suit about a week later. We went with the same approach for Morgan. Entirely child lead. He initiated the desire to wear undies one day and we went from there. KF
We also asked our panel;
In your experience, were there differences between training boys and girls?
- We taught our son to wee sitting down (potty had a shield for boys) so the same principles applied. Then we had a second stage, teaching him to wee standing up (that’s messy!) TW
- Yes. I am only in the early days of toilet training with my son but already I can already see differences (other than the obvious)! He thinks differently to his sister, reacts differently to situations, and responds to different forms of praise. CO
- Not for me, no. SP
- For us there was a marked difference, but not because of their gender. The girls have had long standing issues with immature sphincter muscles and this contributed to them not being physically able to control their bladder until they were a lot older (just after they turned 4). KF
If you missed part one of this How to Start Potty Training series, check out Is My Toddler Ready for Potty Training? Or head to part three that answers the question, What Do I Need for Potty Training?
Our thanks for sharing so generously to Shae (Mum to 3 girls), Tanya (Mum to a pigeon pair), Amanda (Mum to 2 girls), Kate (Mum to 4 – two of each), Cath (Mum to 1+1) and Sarah (Mum to 2 boys and 1 girl).