Thank you to everyone who left a comment on Monday’s post. Your support was truly overwhelming and brought me to tears many times throughout the day. I thank you, thank you, thank you, a hundred times. You cannot imagine how much it helps to know that our little family is in the minds and hearts of so many from all around the world.
I think your words were all the more poignant for me as losing a baby can feel like the most isolating experience in the world. I have found nothing in my life harder than leaving the hospital and coming home without my baby in my arms and yet I still find it so hard to open my mouth and tell people about what I am feeling, or about my experience, especially those we had held off telling that we were even pregnant. For me, the sense of isolation was also an immediate need to retreat within to deal with my pain, I just wanted to curl up into a ball and hide. In those first dark days, sharing was the last thing I wanted to do.
I do however also feel that we, as women, as mothers, as a society, just do not talk openly enough about pregnancy loss. I had absolutely no idea, no information at all, before I went through this myself. In the days immediately following our loss, I searched the internet for stories of other mothers who had been where I was. I ached for a sense of connection within my loneliness. I needed to know that there were others out there who understood, that I was not alone in what I was feeling, and I needed to find hope that I would come out of the other side.
And although everyone’s story is different, reading about the experiences of others has helped me. And continues to. And I hope sharing my experience will help someone else too. But I want more than that, I want to feel that something good has come out of my loss, I want to reach out and let others know that they are not alone in their grief.
But I need your help to do this. I want to create a collection of stories, a resource for mamas (and papas) to come to when they need that same support. So, if you have experienced the loss of a baby at any stage of your pregnancy, I invite you submit a short post to be shared on Childhood 101. It might be…
- Your story
- A letter to your baby, family or self about your experience
- A post outlining what you wish others knew or understood about losing a baby
- A poem, quote or words of wisdom which you found comfort in
- Suggestions for ways to support those experiencing loss
- Places you found support
- Or anything else which you think might be helpful, this is just a list of suggestions to get you thinking.
I look forward to hearing your thoughts and I know others will too. Submissions can be emailed to burnettmc at gmail dot com.
With thanks again,