Three plead not guilty in school bullying case which led to Phoebe Prince’s suicide – News.com.au
One in 10 teens cyberbullied every few weeks – The Daily Telegraph
A ‘watershed’ case in school bullying? – USA Today
Headlines like this concern me. Bullying is a big problem for school aged children and teens. Whilst I realise that bullying is not a new problem, the additional impact of technology as a means of intensifying the pressure against victims whilst providing a veil of anonymity to the bullies, is frankly, frightening.
From The Daily Telegraph;
“Most of those being cyberbullied are also being bullied face-to-face, research by the Child Health Promotion Research Centre at Edith Cowan University in Western Australia shows.”
“The research also found young women were more likely to ask adults for help than young males, but adult intervention didn’t always resolve the situation.
Being cyberbullied also affects the victim’s life at school, with the victim six times more likely to feel disconnected to school and seven times more likely to never feel safe at school.”
From USA Today;
Parents might not realize that the stereotypical bully of generations past — a swaggering schoolyard lout, low on self-esteem, quick to lash out, easy to identify — has become as anachronistic as the blackboard at many schools.
Educational psychologists describe a new kind of bullying. The perpetrators are attractive, athletic and academically accomplished — and comfortable enough around adults to know what they can and can’t get away with, in school and online.
These bullies are so subtle and cunning it’s hard for school staff to know if what looks like bullying really is, and what to do about it.”
As parents, we cannot stick our heads in the sand when it comes to bullying. We cannot live in denial in the hope that it will not happen to our child. We need to arm ourselves with strategies to educate our children from the youngest age. Watch out for an upcoming series of posts which introduce strategies to help ‘bullyproof’ our children, and to help them learn to empathise, to care for others.
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miss carly says
I don't think that teachers should be sticking their heads in the sand either, sure a school might have an anti-bully curriculum/policy in place but doesnt necessarily mean it is being implemented.
Looking forward to the next posts!
I have also heard 'not my child' from the parents of bullies - it is a learned behaviour (from home) or just part of a person's personality?
Sometimes it is part of the group mentality - so a gang of bullies forms, better to be one of them than the victim?
Sorry bullying is one of my pet peeves. Looking forward to the posts.
Busy Brissy Mum says
allison t says
But the cyber-bully phenomenon is beyond me. I hardly use these tools and have very little grasp of how young people could use them to terrorize one another. That's the thing that really scares me, because I can't defend them against something I don't entirely understand.
I'm looking forward to your thoughts and ideas. My oldest is just 6, so hopefully I have plenty of time to figure things out before it's needed.
Hear Mum Roar says
The other thing that I feel is of huge importance in stamping out bullying, is that all of us parents need, instead of blindly believing our child would never bully anyone, is to teach them NOT to bully people. We need to address all the different forms of bullying with clear definitions.
This is something I feel is rarely addressed and needs to be.
Like Hear Mum Roar's approach to finding out about what happens in school (good and bad). The parent needs to take an active role in the situation.